I certainly wouldn’t have thought that a year ago, when I started a blog that I would be sitting here writing post number 301. You can blame Veronica, she made me do it..
Lots of stuff is whizzling through my head today, lots of stuff whizzles through my head most days, my brain is a very busy place.
Apart from the odd hiccup with Veronica, these past few weeks have been quite pleasant.
Mum finished her 3 week course of radiation therapy on the 17th of September . She will have a scan on the 29th of this month to see what has happened with her tumours and isn’t due to go back to the oncologist until the 6th of November. So it has been very easy to pretend that mum isn’t sick, very easy indeed. I am sure that it will get harder to pretend the closer we get to the big appointment.
There have been a few positives that have surfaced as a result of mum’s cancer. The main positive being that mum and I are friends again. We hadn’t been estranged or anything dramatic like that. I had been avoiding my mum because everytime I spoke to mum she made me feel like a naughty child. So it had been easier to let the days slip by, rather than actually listen to what mum was saying .
A friend of mine said it very well. Her words to me were, “Of course your mum makes you feel guilty, she is your conscience.” and she was right.
Does your mum make you feel like you are a naughty child?
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sigh…
I wish I knew what to say to you. I think perhaps when we face these things, we really face ourselves and God, and things are more clear and in perspective. But I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. Bless you.
Mrs. Cs last blog post..Logic.
My mum makes me feel like a naughty child some days, yes.
I love her though, just as you love your mum.
Big things have a way of putting life into perspective. *sigh*
I wish you and your Mum many many happy days to come, many days of comfortable togetherness and many days of normal mother/daughter times.
hugs Kim, you are in my thoughts.
tiffs last blog post..The girl.
No, my Mom is dead. But she was the naughty child. I do loved that about her.
witchypoos last blog post..Vote
Oh Kim. I know. I really and truly know. I feel like I’m 9 or 10 instead of 45 sometimes.
Rees last blog post..Traditions – Past in Polaroids 10
Not the naughty child, b ut still sometimes ‘the’ child yes.
keeping everything crossed for a good result for your mum.
Bettinas last blog post..Last Friday
Congratulations on a year of blogging and over 300 posts. Quite an achievement!!!
Hope everything goes well with your mum. Mother daughter relationships can be tricky at times. My mum? Half the time I’m not sure she even remembers I exist.
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I’m 63. My ‘Mum’ still treats me like I’m 12. I’m going to buy her a couple of pounds of arsenic one of these days.
lceels last blog post..Tuesday Tale
My mom and I have come around. It hasn’t always been sunshine and rabbits, but I’m finally at a place where we’re friends again.
If nothing else good comes from your mum’s situation (and I’m pretty sure there is NO good that comes from cancer), I guess it’s your renewed friendship with your mum.
Hyphen Mamas last blog post..Prayer Circle
My mum always made me feel like a child. Nothing was ever good enough. Even if you put in 100% effort, she wanted 150%. If you scored 49 out of 50 in the spelling test, she’d ask what went wrong, why did I lose two points. Dishes done? Yes. But did you scrub down the stove and sweep the floor? This is the same mum who left me behind when she left home when I was 7-8.
nope she doesn’t
good to hear ya mum is doing ok atm..
Tazs last blog post..51 Weeks Old
Ooh, a whole year! Well done! I’m very glad to hear V is doing better and I’ll be keeping all sorts crossed for your mum’s appt. Hugs BG x
Bendy Girls last blog post..Lately
I AM a naughty child.
301, wow indeed.
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I hope your Mum gets good news with her big tests.
And I am so very glad for you and your family that Veronica is doing okay.
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i’m afraid my mom and I have the kind of relationship you used to have with yours … Need I say more?
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I lost my mum at 17 – I still really miss her even though I am a big grown up person and have my own
having had waters break at 30 weeks – I have everything crossed for your girl – make sure she takes it very easy!
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congrads on the post… I did not talk to my mom for a year… she told me how “crazy” I was acting and blah blah blah so the answer is yes,, we are pretty good now for a year almost she has been nice IT has been nice… Wishing you all luck… oh nice to meet you I have been reading V’s blog for a while now.. I just got my very first grand daughter WOW NOW THAT IS A COOL THING…
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Congrats! That is so great. I just made it 100 the other day. Indeed I think mothers have a natural ability to make us feel guilty…even when we are not doing anything wrong! I hope you mom hangs in there and gets better news.
BTW, I am passing on a little something to you over here:
http://www.zooklight.com/2008/10/butterfly-award.html
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hey hun..
i wont be online..
going away for the weekend..
don’t miss me too much..
Tazs last blog post..Happy Birthday Baby Girl.. 52 Weeks Old..
When Mother’s make a Daughter seem like a naughty child its often because they are so afraid deep inside that they won’t be part of their Daughters life for much longer, and so they rebuke and scold and chide as they are trying to say everything in advance to cover all the years when they no longer can.
Yes! My mum always makes me feel like a naughty child, I related to this post so much. Sometimes I keep things from her because I know she will make me feel guilty. She doesn’t realize she does it, I’ve asked her before. If she got sick though, I would be the same as you. Good luck with it all and to your mum too.
It wasn’t until shortly before she died that she stopped making me feel like a naughty child, she was a champ at it!
When she became seriously ill and Brad and I were looking after her she changed her tune. She became very grateful and full of admiration for what Brad and I did.
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